While I healed my incest and other child abuse issues the process felt every bit as intensive and demanding as giving birth. In a way I was giving birth – to myself.
Here is a check list you can refer to any time you need. It's a sort of basic toolbox for healing:
Take a breather
List what to do in crisis
Action plan for dealing with memories and flashbacks
Pace Em technique
Relax – take a power nap
Balance your day
List your tasks and goals
Be your own best friend
Check your coping skills
Choose a counsellor
Get clean and sober
Beat insomnia / shadows / nightmares and nasty dreams.
Please feel free to print this list if it's helpful. You might want to make it small enough to fit your wallet to carry with you as a reminder. Next blog I'll start to describe each step in more detail.
Fun is mandatory: Do something nice for yourself.