Some of us were physically neglected and had nothing and nobody.
Everything is on a continuum that stretches from best possible to worst case scenario or situation. We don't need to decide where on this line we were or are. All of us will grieve what we didn't have - that's part of this healing business. A wise counselor, who specialized in working with sexual abuse / incest survivors, once told me, "The deeper the grieving, the deeper the healing."
Gradually, the feeling of being abandoned, the anger and sadness, fade. I wish I could tell you it happens overnight or by next weekend, but that wouldn't be true. For what it's worth in my experience, those feelings still pop up from time to time. Over the years they pass more quickly, rather like a weather system, though there are always those times when some system rolls in to stick around like an arctic outflow or grey days with rain, rain, rain that seem endless.
I thought I'd raise this issue of abandonment because I'm feeling guilty that I haven't written anything in this blog since July, 2012. I hope you won't hold it against me, I just got overwhelmed trying to do way too much, and in a way abandoned my self. New Year's day is when people make resolutions. Ha ha - we all know about those!
My intention for 2013 is not to abandon my self.