As you start to feel at home with your anger you will discover it is a gift. Yet a gift to use wisely.
In time you'll slip into anger as easily as you do into feelings of joy, sadness, love and so on. Anger
can move you out of your feelings of depression, powerlessness and helplessness.
Make friends with your anger:
Anger is necessary for survival
Anger is energy
Anger tells you about:
-- your physical well-being
-- your emotional well-being
-- your emotions
Many of us sit on our anger and are afraid to express its energy. In general, the Law, the Church
(most religions), some mental health practitioners, some teachers, and much of society tell us -
especially if, like me, you're a woman, or a girl - anger is wrong or a negative emotion.
Yet, if we bottle up our anger and do not express it directly and clearly it:
-- festers and spawns further anger
-- surfaces anyway - in whatever way it can - and may cause us, and those around us, harm.
Either we turn it:
-- in on ourselves - in aches and pains, depression, illness
-- against others - either by blowing up or lashing out violently.
Or we express it in underhanded (passive aggressive ) behaviour.
-- say we'll do something and then "forget" to do it
-- arrive late
-- put others down
-- don't listen
-- wind up feeling guilty, which generates more guilt, more anger...
When we act in these ways those around us react - sometimes with anger. A vicious cycle begins.
Underneath anger is usually a lot of hurt, sadness, fear, feelings of betrayal and frustration.
REMINDER: Expressing feelings is about Energy in MOTION.
REMEMBER THE TWO RULES if you are angry: No hurting yourself. No hurting others.