Being a Sex Object = treating ourselves in the way our abuser(s) treated us. Being an object keeps us distanced from our painful feelings, our real self and others. Wearing revealing or tight clothes, stripping, working as a porn star, posing as a sex goddess are all part of this. Helps us avoid intimacy. Survivors’ self-esteem and identity are often caught up totally with sexuality - especially if we were sexually abused from a very young age. What other way do we know how to be except as a sexual toy?
Shutting Down Sexually = keeps us safe.
Sexualizing All Relationships = avoids real intimacy. Hides who we really are.
Avoiding Relationships = no one can hurt you.
REMINDER: Figuring out your personal coping skills is hard work. You deserve a special treat. Maybe an ice-cream or a fruit.