assault in adulthood, accident or incident that is traumatic. And like the death of a dear person we must
grieve who or what we've lost. And those things are many and various:
- The perfect family
- A life that might have been
- Add in your own list here: ____________________________________
There are stages in the grieving process. It doesn't go in stages as follows but is circular and spirals up
and down, back and forth. At first we go through shock that numbs us. This numbing can go on for years.
- Denial - a sort of Pepto-Bismol that soothes reality until we can cope with it.
- Anger - in The Courage to Heal, the authors call anger "the backbone of healing." *
- Sadness - crying prepares us to be more compassionate and empathetic.
- Acceptance - we are finally able to accept what happened.
It won't always be as intense as in the beginning.
*REMINDER: Going through stages of anger, rage or outrage: No hurting yourself. No hurting others.
Take a break. Have a cuppa tea (I'm originally from London, England. We always drink tea in a crisis,
to calm down, or when feelings threaten to overwhelm us), a bath, a walk, nap or other comfort measure.
BE KIND TO YOURSELF.