It would be marvellous if, in our healing journey, we could forget all about the misery of remembering what happened to us and go directly to the next stage. Collect $500 as we go. But this is no game, nor are there any short cuts.
So if Part One was all about flashbacks and memories and coping skills and a lot of hard hard work putting the missing bits of our lives back together, Part Two is about defrosting our feelings and our bodies. Parts one and two
are inextricably linked. At first this tying together may be a bit more than you bargained for.
Not only may you find yourself reacting to things in ways you never did before, but the emotions you feel may overwhelm you. This is completely normal. You are not going stark raving mad. When you've had to keep your tears and sadness hidden under wraps, your anger stuffed down, your joy - if there's been even a smidgeon - squelched, to have a moment of real feeling will seem huge. You may not, at first, even know what's happening to you.
My introduction to feelings was telling my counsellor there was something wet on her cheeks. She said yes, she was crying. "Crying?" I asked, stunned. "Why?' "Because what you're telling me is so moving."
And good grief it was too. As well as an appropriate response to parts of my story.
NOTE: Reaction and Response are two different words with two different meanings.